The Pernicious Pink Princess Plot

I have a confession: My daughter likes pink, and princesses, and pink princesses. This isn’t something I forced on her, but I don’t discourage her either.

According to Kat Arney of The Guardian, I’m turning her into a passive pink princess:

The increasing separation of toys into “for boys” and “for girls”, strongly coded by colour and reinforced by highly gendered marketing, is depriving girls of active toys and games that encourage the development of their spatial and analytical skills.

Instead, they’re pushed towards being passive princesses, surrounded by fashion dolls, kiddie make-up and miniaturised vacuum cleaners. And at the same time, boys are denied opportunities for more social and imaginative play.

In a society that is fighting hard for equal rights for both sexes, it seems a retrograde step to be increasingly forcing our kids into these pink and blue stereotypes. Isn’t it about time we stemmed the tide of pink?

There are many adjectives I would use to describe Anna: smart, funny, cute, playful, imaginative, energetic, verbose, stubborn, defiant, and independent. Passive? No, she’s not passive.

Sometimes life would be easier if she was, but I’m glad she’s not.

She calls herself a princess, though, but I think that to her princess is another word for girl. That’s why when she’s in ballet she’s a ballerina princess, when she’s in gymnastics she’s a gymnastics princess, when she’s playing pirate she’s a pirate princess, and when she’s playing superhero she’s a superhero princess. It’s all a variation on fill-in-the-blank princess, with the blank being filled by whatever game she’s playing.

Because as much as she loves princesses, she loves other things too. Like superheroes. We thought she would be a princess for last Halloween, but instead she chose Supergirl. She still has her Supergirl costume in with her dress-up clothes, including several princess dresses, but also a vet coat and a firefighter coat—she loves to wear all of them.

And as much as she loves pink, it’s not her only favorite color. As she will tell anyone listening (or even not listening) “I have three favorite colors: red, orange, and pink.” Red actually came first, perhaps because girls have a slight preference for reddish shades (as mention in the linked article), or perhaps because she was two and was obsessed with Elmo. Pink and orange soon followed, and she has loved all three ever since.

She also reads books and plays with stuffed animals and dolls, and building blocks and balls.

In other words, she is a complex little person with her own likes and dislikes. Nobody’s forcing her into anything.

Anna as Supergirl

Who you callin’ passive?