Bloggerhood Etc. 11/3/14

Fighting siblings.

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Best Parenting Post.10 Parenting Moves That Aren’t As Smart As They Seem” by Deanna King at Scary Mommy.

Bravest Post.This is a Story About Mental Illness” by Elizabeth Esther.

Best Profile.Rocket Man” by Patrick Radden Keefe at The New Yorker.

Best Commentary.The Right’s Sham Christianity: How an Attack on John Kasich Exposes the Fraud” by Elizabeth Stoker Bruenig at

Best Pregnancy Post.Can Fetal Movements Predict a Baby’s Sex or Temperament?” by Alice Callahan at Science of Mom.

Best Article.The Book in Every Iranian Home” by Diana Darke at BBC News Magazine.

Best Dad Post.Anna, You’re a Frozen Princess I Need to Apologize To” by Mike Reynolds at Puzzling Posts.

Worst Pastors.Mars Hill Church leadership – Giving Members the Finger to the Very End” by Robthain Smith at Musings From Under the Bus.

Best Special Needs Post.Uncertainty in a Special Needs Life: Surviving its Ups and Downs” by Kelli Ra Anderson at Not Alone.

Best Update.Phase 2 of the Pope Francis era: The Honeymoon is Over” by John L. Allen Jr. at Crux.

Best Essay.No Guarantee of Safety: Inside the Belgrade Derby” by Kirsten Schlewitz at SB Nation.

Best Halloween Video.The Headless Horseman Blog” by Glove and Boots (via YouTube).

You may ask yourself “How did I get here?”

Bloggerhood Etc. 10/27/14

Rhythm clock

Image: John Varney/TED-ED

Best Profile.The Crisis That Changed Pope Francis” by Paul Vallely at Newsweek. 

Best Dad Post. Should You Travel With Young Kids?” by Jeff Bogle at OWTK.

Bravest.Ten Minutes of Bravery” by Aaron J. Smith at Cultural Savage.

Best List.10 Traits My Tween and Teen Acquired From Participating in Live Theater” by Andee Zomerman at Nature of a Servant.

Best Call to Rebellion.A Benedictine on the Benedict Option” by Rod Dreher at The American Conservative.

Best Special Needs Post.Does Guilt Lace Your Dreams” by Kara Dedert at Not Alone.

Best Commentary.TED Talks are Lying to You” by Thomas Frank at Salon.

Best Question.Is St. Peter a Bouncer?” by Joshua Ryan Butler at A Deeper Story.

Best Answer.Why Every Newborn You See on Facebook is Wrapped in the Same Baby Blanket” by Lisa Selin Davis at Quartz.

Best Easy Recipe.Incredibly Simple Applesauce” by Evelyn Shoop at Momsicle. 

Best Free Resource.NASA Posts a Huge Library of Space Sounds, And You’re Free To Use Them” by Peter Kirn at Create Digital Music.

Best Mom Post.Flutters and Faith” by Sarah Bessey.

Best Essay.Daughter of the Dragon” by Hilary Oliva Faxon at SB Nation.

Best Educational Video.A Different Way to Visualize Rhythm” by John Varney at TED-ED (via YouTube)


Anna's Newborn Picture

Photo: Julia Ozab

Nothing can prepare you to be a parent.

Back when Julia was expecting, and when Anna was still “Peanut,” we read all the books. The obligatory What to Expect When You’re Expecting, the sassy Girlfriends Guide to Pregnancy, and the dad-centric The Expectant Father— we read them all. They got us through the pregnancy, though just barely, but no book could prepare us to be a parent.

Nothing can prepare you for the sleepless nights, the every-two-hour feedings, the spit-ups, the clean-ups, the diaper changes, the diaper emergencies, the diaper catastrophes, and the diaper apocalypses.

Nothing can prepare you for the way your life will suddenly center on a person who until recently didn’t exist. No matter how organized you are, your precise schedules mean nothing now. And if you’re chronically disorganized—like me—may God have mercy on you. Your life is about to become a never-ending series of crises and no matter how hard you try you will never get the better of it.

You might as well accept it and learn to live with it. This is your new normal.

So why do we do it? Why do we bring these little people into the world that poop all the time and cry all the time and by the time they figure out how to communicate and how to use the toilet they also learn to say “no” and fuss and argue and learn how to push every button that will transform you from a reasonable adult into an irrational, incoherent lunatic?

It starts that moment in the hospital when you hold your baby for the first time. There is nothing that can prepare you for that moment. Nothing I can say that can explain it.

But if you’ve experienced it you know exactly what I mean. There is nothing you wouldn’t do for this brand new baby in your arms. Nothing you wouldn’t sacrifice to make this little one happy.


And after that, in retrospect, all the rest seems like nothing in comparison.

Five Minute Friday

Bloggerhood Etc. 1/13/14


Detail of Series 1934 $500 bill (Image: Wikimedia Commons)

This is my 500th post on Fatherhood Etc. I’ll write more about that milestone later this week. But for today, here’s the best of the week from around the blogosphere.

Best Letter.Dear ‘Daddy’ in Seat 16C Flight 1850 From Philly” by Shanell Mouland at Go Team Kate.

Best Misheard Question.How is God for You?” by Tamára Lunardo at Tamára Out Loud.

Best FanpostThe Importance of Personality” by HULK SMUSH! at Hogs Haven.

Best Story.The Simple Story” by Robert Rummel-Hudson at Support for Special Needs.

Funniest.Breaking Madden: Never count out ‘Touchdown’ Tom Brady” by Jon Bois at SB Nation.

Most Compassionate.Welcome to My Coming Out Party” by Evelyn Shoop at Momsicle.

Brightest.When Every Knee Bowed” by Natalie Trust.

Best Essay.Wilderness Women” by Eva Holland at SB Nation.

Best Video.9 months, 500 photos, and one gorgeous baby” by Nicole Gourley (via YouTube).